I know for the most part this is preaching to the choir, but I am curious how each of you (gay or straight) deal with the climate of misunderstanding that tarnished Memphis’s ideas of same-sex relationships.

I go through my day as open as I can be. I do not punch in doors or rub it into anyone’s face but I do live open and honest just as if I were a straight man in a relationship with a woman. I’ve always imagined that this is the best way to change the landscape of ignorance where ever I’ve lived.

I never have understood the reasoning; “No one needs to know my business” that I hear often from my friends that are still keeping their closet door partially closed. I would love to hear what everyone does, has done… or would like to do to open the minds and hearts of the people of Memphis.

- Michael J. Hildebrand

I wish more than anything that there were more people in the community like you. They all scream I want RIGHTS and I want EQUALITY but rarely does anyone take the steps needed to come closer to that goal. The more seasoned members of our community would much rather stay home and out of the spotlight…and the younger members just want to fight with out really understanding what the fight is about…they have good intentions…but most of the time they just approach the situation all wrong. I am but one person…people misunderstand me but one thing they do know is I support my community…my gay community. I am openly bisexual…I am not greedy , I just dont limit myself to being attracted to someone’s genitals…anywho back to the point. I have noticed it is more acceptable in the eyes of the memphis community for me to be in a relationship with a man rather than a woman…like its still soo TABOO…*rolls eyes*…I am willing to do what it takes for myself, my brothers, my sisters, my sisters to brothers, and brothers to sisters…to be more accepting of themselves…and comfortable enough to be who they and not afraid to show their love for their partner no matter where they are….sexual orientation shouldnt govern how you love your partner out in the open.

- Mystie Gregory

I try to be honest and genuine wherever I am. It’s not always comfortable or pleasant, but it seems to be the best way to live in the skin I am in. I haven’t always been successful at this, but it’s sort of like coming out. The more people you tell, the easier it gets and the more freedom you feel. As I get better at being who I am at the moment, wherever I am, it gets easier and easier to practice honesty and open-ness.

And, I think people begin to appreciate your honesty, whether they are ‘friends and family’ or not!

Thanks for the topic. I love the idea of positivity and education! Great work!

- Hillary Pesson

(from the Facebook Group discussion of the same top)